I’m Not Here To Impress

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I find it really easy to compartmentalize my life.

I find it easy to have a “church life” and I only act certain ways there.

I have a “home life” and I am totally myself there.

In my “online life” how I act might depend on how well I know you.

In my “work life” and I am anywhere from 0-100% myself depending on the work I’m doing and how other coworkers are treating me.

What if my life was the SAME everywhere?

What if I was only my authentic self all the time?

Sure some might be offended.

But when isn’t that the case?

I’m not here to impress everyone.

I wonder what does God want for my life?

I’m not planning on offending others just for sport, but would I rather have a surface-level conversation about safe topics, or a heart-to-heart talks with TRUE friends?

I believe I am called to have REAL relationships, not surface-level friendships.

 

What would some be some of the benefits if you quit compartmentalizing your life?

The Inside Scoop on What I’m Doing NOW in 2012.

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In the last post, I kind of left you on a cliff hanger. I do have some exciting news to share with you, but first here is a short recap of what I originally planned to do in 2012.

1. Pursue a better relationship with God
2.Publish my kid’s Book The Shiny Red Guitar.
3.To record my original songs and share them with others.
4.To continue to grow as a writer.

5.To help others in their journey.

Things have changed, in a BIG way.

Here is the new, revised list.

1.Building a better relationship with God.

I now realize writing and helping others is most definitely a form of serving and worship. Both are VERY important and greatly effect my walk with God. I’ve also realized that prayer is not just me talking to God. I need to be silent, so I can hear Him talk.

2. I will continue to help others on their journey.

I started a Quitter Meetup Group in Nashville and also a Killer Tribes Group. I am absolutely thrilled with both and just love connecting with others. If you are in Nashville, please email me for the latest meetup dates.

3. Continue to stretch myself as a writer. 

I am only writing for this blog and guest posts now. I made the difficult decision to quit writing for my guitar blog and I have not been able to participate in very many “practices” at the Write Practice. What changed? I still absolutely love the Write Practice and wish I had more time to devote there, but I don’t at this moment. Why is that?

The item missing from this list is….
DRUM ROLL PLEASE…..
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4.Start a Creative Coaching business!!!!!!!!!

I have felt called to do this for quite a while and I am officially opening for business TODAY!!!!  Think of this service as more of this blog tailored to fit your personal needs. Whether it is helping you find your passion, or just providing support, encouragement, accountability or guidance, I want to help. If you are interested, please feel free to shoot me an email. First come, first served.

What about the other goals I originally had on my list?

I still want to pursue The Shiny Red Guitar book, and I will DEFINITELY keep an eye out for any illustrators I meet, but the timing just does not feel right. I am more passionate about coaching than kid’s books right now.

I still love playing the guitar, so don’t think for a minute that I am giving up on playing the guitar. I will not give up my self-proclaimed “guitar junkie” status without a fight. I just know that writing and creative coaching will take precedent over those other activities.

It was really tough putting some of these projects on hold. It did feel a little like failure, but I know things will work out for the better when these hard decisions are made.

Have you ever had to make a tough decision to pursue your dream? Please share in the comments. Thanks!

It’s not Failure, it’s Practice.

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I’ve realized it is time to change a few of my 2012 goals.

Some may call it failure or giving up, but I disagree with this logic.

I am practicing.

I’m making mistakes.

I’m learning.

I’m growing.

 

I’ll talk more about what I’m doing in Wednesday’s post.

 

What are you currently working on? Is it time to change or refocus your goals for 2012?

The One App You Need To Avoid

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This guest post is from my friend Jamie Kocur. She is a musician, songwriter, writer, and  occasional worship leader who blogs about worship and her struggles with it at Rebooting Worship. Jamie is also one of the nicest people you will ever meet. You can follow her on Twitter at @jamiekocur.

My husband surprised me with an iPhone for my birthday. I was ecstatic, and eager to dive into all the fun and useful apps that the iPhone has to offer. I envisioned utilizing apps that would catapult my productivity as I pursue my dream of working with music and writing.

Unfortunately, I discovered the Sims, a fun, sunny, interactive world that you create online.

The Sims is an incredibly addictive game. It’s filled with virtual people that you have to take care of and tell what to do. These little guys won’t even use the bathroom until you tell them to.

It started out innocent enough. It was a fun little distraction from my day, and a treat for myself when I was done with whatever work I had set for myself.

Then it got ugly. Pretty soon I was checking on my little Sims five, six, or even more times a day.

“It’s 5:00! Time to send Maria to work!”

“Andras is starving! I must feed him!”

As you advance in the game, you add more characters and the Sims world gets bigger. You build their cute little houses and even adding a little Sim baby. The more Sims you have, the more time consuming the game becomes. Soon, every time I was “just checking on them” turned into a 30-minute ordeal. These guys are needy!

Each 30-minute session took 30 minutes away from work I needed to be doing on my dream.

Games aren’t bad. I think when used effectively, they’re a great way to give your brain some down time. Unfortunately, as in my case, they can become an addiction and problem. My Sims took away important time that I can never get back.

Enough is enough. I had to pull the plug. I deleted the app.

What app (or other vice) do you highly recommend avoiding? Please share in the comments. Thanks!

Why You Need a Mission Statement

 

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For years I’ve thought that mission statements were not important.

They were just words or phrases companies hang on the wall.

But now I see the importance of a mission statement.

Now I view a mission statement as a valuable filter.

It tells me if something falls in line with my long-term vision.

Here is my mission statement for my writing: I write to help myself first and then to help others. I write for the love of writing and not for applause. I write to spread hope, encouragement and support to others. I do NOT write to elevate myself. Above all, I write for God’s glory.

What is your mission statement for your writing or other creative endeavor? If you don’t have one, I’d encourage you to think about it and write one.

Please feel free to share it in the comments. Thanks!

 

Discovering the Story Within: Interview With Elizabeth Hudson

 

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I recently did an interview with the extremely talented Elizabeth Hudson. Elizabeth is a writer, daydreamer, and lover of thunderously loud live music. She speaks with a slight twang, advocates chocolate for breakfast, and always keeps a suitcase packed in case of spontaneous adventure. You can read her blog here and follow her on Twitter here.

Jim Woods (JW): What inspired you to be a writer?

Elizabeth Hudson (EH): There’s no dramatic epiphany in this story. I imagine it happened like this: one day my mama handed me a pencil, most likely to keep me quiet through church. Those scribblings turned into words, and those words turned into stories the older I got. And I’ve never stopped writing them. Writing is like breathing. If I ever stopped, I’d turn blue and die.

(JW): The name of your blog is Story-Wrought. I must admit I had to look up the word wrought and found it means “beaten out or shaped by hammering.” Is that what your writing process is like?

(EH): Oh my, yes. I sit down at my desk each morning, and I stare out the window at the woodpecker following the length of a tree limb. And I decide that I need more coffee. And I wonder if anyone has posted new photos on Instagram. And I remember that I didn’t check the mail the day before, and my library books are overdue, and I should probably go for a run before it gets any hotter outside. As only a writer – or any artist – knows, the hardest part is staying still and staying present. The words will come as long as we stay focused.

But the name Story Wrought is also equally about life. I don’t want to write incredible stories at the expense of living. Life and writing can be hell, but as Steven Pressfield pointed out in The War of Art, “The more important a call or action is to our soul’s evolution, the more Resistance we will feel toward pursuing it.”

(JW)What authors inspire you and make you want to write?

(EH) I’m a die-hard William Trevor fan. His stories are wistful, quiet, and powerful beyond belief. No car chases, no explosions, no glamorous characters. Just pure story driven by character and language and meaning.  Other literary loves: Donald Miller, Marilynne Robinson, Brennan Manning, Henning Mankell, Shakespeare, Bram Stoker, Anne Lamott, Vladimir Nabokov, and Walker Percy.

(JW):What have you been working on lately?

(EH): I haven’t been writing as much as I’d like to admit. Currently, I’m on the brink of juggling three jobs, a writing class, job searching, a blog, and a million other creative writing projects. I’ll be in Nashville this weekend for Donald Miller’s Storyline Conference, and I hear you’ll be there, too!  I’m looking forward to returning next week with a new perspective on life and writing.You know that feeling when you’re sure something BIG is right around the corner? That’s what I’m feeling. And I’m trusting God to show me which direction to turn next.

(JW): As a creative, I’ve found it very important to find support for my dream. Have you been able to find support for your dreams?

(EH): When it comes to dreams, I think it’s best not to look towards the world for support. It’s often a tangled mess of distraction and pessimistic perception masquerading as reality. This is where I look to God to see if I’m on the right path. But I do have an extremely supportive and creative family cheering me on. I knew I had stumbled across a piece of God’s calling for me in the months after I quit my job, moved out of the city, and flew to Ireland because I was spending hours a day writing and could not stand to see the weekend approaching. I loved writing full-time that much. Now I’m pursuing freelance writing.

(JW): If you had one piece of advice for another writer, what would it be?

(EH): Write. Write your heart out. And then keep writing. Be prepared to make sacrifices, be ready to meet all of your greatest fears at the keyboard each morning, and be warned that you will not be an overnight success story. If you’re meant to be a writer, then you’ll know it. Thomas Mann was onto something when he said, “A writer is somebody for whom writing is more difficult than it is for other people.”

 

What is one way you can live a better story with your life?

Life of a Writer

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Absorb the constant rejection and occasional acceptance.
Dine on the diet of loneliness, pain and vulnerability.

Give away your deepest, darkest fears.
Watch yourself bleed.
Pour your soul on the page.
Weave your hopes and dreams into the tapestry of a story.

Wait for the applause, obscenities or the worse possible response—silence.

But take solace in what unites us:
Love.
Respect.
Jealousy.
Hate.
Doubts.
Fears.
Hopes.
Dreams.
Goals.

All of Which quietly collide one word at a time.

 

As a writer can you relate? If so, what is your favorite part of being a writer? Thanks!

 

I QUIT!!!

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I QUIT.

 

Seriously, I’m done.

 

I’m not playing the blame game anymore.

 

I’ve tried, and I’ve failed.

 

I can’t blame other writers.

 

I can’t blame the economy.

 

I can’t blame it on the numbers in my bank account.

 

I can’t blame the Republicans, Democrats, Mickey Mouse or anyone else for that matter.

 

To play the blame game is a waste of time.

 

To waste my time is to waste my life.

 

So I quit.

 

What do you need to quit? Please share in the comments. Thanks.

 

Guest Posting at Jeremy Statton’s Blog Today

 

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I am very honored to announce that I am guest posting today at Jeremy Statton’s blog. If you have never visited Jeremy’s blog before, Jeremy Statton is a writer, orthopedic surgeon, husband and father. I would really appreciate it if you would check out his blog and maybe even comment on my guest post. Thanks!!